Papers are filed, here comes the D. Focus on me

[Surfer]

Zeus,

Personally, I didn't read this as a hostile thread but I get the name calling etc points and the point you make about this being personal to you. Fair points. The point you make about whether any of this is going to help save a marriage is important too. It's a tricky sitch for us all in this forum, but, ultimately, it is protected and private as a forum. I guess it gives some freedom to express in an appropriate way for the venue. Afterall, a lot of this is dealing with very raw emotion so it does not spill elsewhere and cause more damage to a M, children etc.

I think we all need to be mindful of showing respect. Emotions - they are tricky. There is no doubt.

You are right. Some dads do connect more as children grow and I have rarely seen a mothers bond weaker than a fathers particularly in the very young baby stages. As my S and D grow I find there is more of a bond as I don't mind having my daughter do my hair (what's left of it) and I enjoy building things with my S. We all like swimming etc. When they were very small, swimming was a bit less fun so the bond was less. Perhaps that's part of it. You connect more as you e joy more together.

Just thoughts.

Surfer.