I sort of lost it today Ex and Mrs. Ex dropped by on their way to the beach by my house. They live less than 10 miles from fabulous Jones Beach on Fire Island, but drove over an hour to get here, ugh.
Anyway, RT upset me so! First she was very indignant that my poor ex-MIL, whom I love dearly, yelled at her for breaking a shelf in her kitchen cabinet and putting some spoons away in the wrong drawer. And something about cheese, but I could not understand what she was saying. RT said my ex-MIL is very nasty and is unappreciative of everything she and Ex do for her. Poor woman, she hates having RT living in the house with her.
Then RT started saying that my ex-MIL is living on her income from her investments, and she and Ex are going to inherit a lot of money from her when she dies. I could not believe she said that!
You're right Ellie, I hope my poor ex-MIL is careful, I'd be scared of RT if I were her. No joke.
Then RT started bragging that eating fermented oatmeal had cured Ex's diverticulitis! I told her I thought the antibiotics his doctor put him on had done that. She got really snarky, and told me a whole laundry list of stuff that fermented oatmeal cures. I forgot to ask her about it's masonry patching properties LOL
Then she started showing me this house on her phone, that she wants Ex and herself to buy in Maryland (YEA!). I was feeling sort of sick of her by this time, and asked how they intended to purchase it. Take out a mortgage, said RT. I told her that one needs to prove that he or she has an income to get a mortgage. She very snottily informed me that some guy at the bank had told her that Ex has excellent credit.
I don't know what is wrong with me but I sort of got a PMS moment (at age 64 almost!!) and blew up at her, and told her that he has not worked a day since 1994 and any excellent credit he has is purely due to me working 2 or 3 jobs all these years. And that despite his excellent credit, he needs an income to get a mortgage. She told me I'm wrong, got very huffy and went outside to wait for Ex.
Ugh. I hate being a bitch. And it was such little stuff to blow up over. She just rubs me the wrong way I guess, the home wrecker LOL! I do hope they can buy a house in MD and move down there very very fast.
Linda
Me 65, Ex 64 M 38 y 2 adult S, 4 G-Kids MLC 11/07 BD 12/09 D 3/14 Dating nice guy 7/14 Engaged to nice guy 12/17
I think you've been a saint to put up w/Ex and Mrs. Ex thus far. I can't even imagine why they drove out of their way to come to your home unless they were looking for something.
I'm very concerned for your ex-MIL. RT is out to get every penny she can and I wouldn't be surprised if she didn't try to have your ex-MIL committed and placed in a nursing home. I don't trust her one bit.
You were right in advising her of her new h's employment status and what his credit standing is all about. Yes, they would have to have some proof of employment. BTW, is your h on SSN or still just floating and not working at all.
OMG! Maryland? You've got to be kidding me. I hope they aren't considering my area. LOL!
I do not blame you for blowing up. I would have had to show them the door the minute RT started talking about the ex-MIL. Actually, I don't think I would have invited them in. LOL! Next time them come over, whip up a batch of oatmeal and serve it up cold.
You truly are a saint to put up w/them after all of this time.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
Don't be kidding about that! I've got two right on my street for sale and they've been on the market for quite some time. LOL!
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
You let them in your home and speak to them which is beyond gracious then they go on complaining about your poor exMIL if they were without , they would be homeless. You stood up for your ex MIL and you shot some truth darts. Nothing wrong with that at all.
Let them eat their fermented oatmeal and apply for a mortgage without an income. Let reality bit them in the arse.
You are one classy lady. Smart and educated.
For the sake of you and JOB lets home they just go back to Siberia
Omg..... I can't believe you even let them in your home.
If I were you, I would take ex-mil aside and express your concerns. Seriously. RT has shown herself to be manipulative, she has completely unrealistic ideas, and the reality of everything is starting to crash down on her. When she finds out that she can't get a job and they can't get a mortgage, I could totally see her try to solve her problems by bumping off MIL.
MIL needs to take steps to protect herself from elder abuse, from RT getting into her bank accounts, and maybe needs to change her will in some way that protects the money from RT (maybe putting your ex's money in a trust managed by someone else, so that ex can get a little income to live on but can't access the principle so RT can't spend it all.)
I can’t believe that they stopped by your house and RT told you all that stuff! What was xh doing at that time, listening and nodding in agreement? Yes, if I would be your MIL, I would be very careful. RT is in this for her own benefit and money, it was so clear from the beginning.
The possibility of them getting a house next to job is interesting, hahaha... I just can see job saying “hello home wrecker” every morning with a big smile on her face, LOL! The good thing is that if by any miracle they actually buy a house, they will not stay there for long. What a fantasy!
Linda, I cannot even imagine what your x texts you and e-mails you every week. I don’t think he feels secure with RT and still wants to have you in the loop of his life, poor guy. She might be ok with it, since now she’s “got” him, plus she probably wants to play you as well to get what she wants. What a dreadful woman!
As for my sitch… No, H has not filed yet. He is kind of doing pull and push dance. I need to update my thread, sigh…
Take care, Linda!
M:50 H:52 S28 (my S from previous marriage) M:17 + 3 BD: 06/12 S: 06/12 - H works in another state
Ex and Mrs. Ex dropped by on their way to the beach by my house. They live less than 10 miles from fabulous Jones Beach on Fire Island, but drove over an hour to get here, ugh. 
