Another thought that keeps coming back in my head is: It is all in the way we look at it, the way we see it, 2 sides
Example of this : My life was perfect, for my Ex-H, it was not.
His affair ladies were little ladies to me, I had no respect what so ever for any of them. To him, they were treasures.
to me, his leaving was the biggest mistake of his life. To him, it was a solution, since he attached his misery onto us.
Now, in the situation at work: Confrontation was this ex-co-workers way of doing things to get the results he was looking for. To me, it was not the way to do it. He wanted the respect of ALL staff members but showed no respect to anyone. many walked out crying or quitting because of him. He was unpleasable. Ring a bell????? I met my chance to grow when I met him. He put me to the test of a lifetime in regards of my growth. I tried sooooo hard to make him see everybody else' s worth. I have tried to " change " his approach but he refused saying : " I am who I am and I like me. If you don' t like it, it is on you! ". ( kinda of what we tell our MLCer! ) It shook me up. I started thinking that I was in the wrong. That I had no right to try changing the situation. I felt paralyzed and could not see myself making any difference. That, once again, my opinion was just an opinion and it did not matter. I could not stand seeing good hard-working friends and associates being treated this way. Including me !! I quit. In my mind, if I could not handle his way of doing things, I had to leave. This store is not mine and it is not up to me to decide what is right or wrong or how things should be done. I accept it or I leave. I left. Business went down 7.5 % over the summer. Not only was this Ex-co-worker fighting with the staff but his own work was left to desire. He was giving up. Digging his grave even deeper and he lost his job over it while I got mine back.
Who is right and who is wrong?? If he was to write his story, I am sure it would not sound like this one!! It is the same for MLCer and our story as a LBS.
Different views, different analysis, different circumstances, different opinions, different approach, different situation... !!!
The label of depression should be re-worded to: the beginning of a long journey toward insight and enlightenment. Or maybe it should be the words for Midlife-crisis. Both side are working on this. Only in a different way, a different journey.
