"He does sound like he is in a bit of conflict about his decision which is good. But try not to focus too much on that and build expectations, and don't allow him to cake eat. It's not fair on you for him to say he wants a d but then carry on being affectionate with you."

Cherry this is your direct quote to Csabo on her thread. Always easier to give good advice to others than to take it yourself! We are all guilty of this. However your Hs actions are some of the worst on these boards, yet we give him (and all that he does, says, is) more attention than any other wayward here.

Another thing I wanted to add is that while your spa days, manis/pedis, and expensive shoes are nice, I do not see that they are bringing you confidence. That is all short lived and only feels good for a moment. Then you continue to focus on every move WH makes. How can we help you find genuine confidence and strength so you can realize how much more you and your children deserve?

What I would like to see the most from you in your sitch, is how are you planning to move forward without WH? What does that look like? How can we X him out of the equation? He doesn't deserve all this attention we are giving him. He needs to get out now and be on his own.

-Blu

“Forgiveness liberates the soul. It removes fear. That is why it is such a powerful weapon.” – Nelson Mandela