My wife thinks we're piecing (2)

[EDF]

Journaling.

Last few weeks have been pretty good. I did another mud run 5k, and spent a couple hours at an obstacle course training camp - lots of fun. Am keeping up on my exercise and maintaining my lower weight. Flew with W to visit relatives and had a relaxing trip.

Haven't had any real R talk since the one last month. Planning to suggest we go through a R book together... something with Couple activities; not sure which one yet.

Things aren't perfect certainly, but I've been getting less weird vibes. Covert phone GPS continues to have her always where she says she is, and she will make gestures like e.g. sending me a picture of an outfit she likes if she is shopping. W seems very considerate most of the time and has been doing a pretty good job following through on what I've asked. If the EA hadn't happened I would say things are going great.

She is occasionally in a funk, but I work hard to remind myself that I didn't cause the bad mood and I can't make her happy. I focus on not taking it personally (since I didn't cause it), perhaps ask if she needs anything, but otherwise just leave her space to deal with her own crap. When I do that, I find she gets back to normal a lot quicker. Her moods like that used to cause more of a feedback loop between us where my reaction (either angst at her being upset or me trying to fix things for her) would make things continue to deteriorate.

One of the major things I'm still continuing to work on personally is being less of an ultra-accommodating nice guy. Little things like when W tells me to pick a pizza place, I always used to try and ask/guess where she wanted to go and feel like if I got it wrong it would be a big deal. Working on just pulling the trigger and making definitive decisions more.