Life has changed, and I choose to grow from it.

[RosaLinda]

RosaLinda, I appreciate the kind words and look forward in a manner of speaking to being neighbors soon over in the "life after D" neighborhood.

I was not exaggerating. You are truly amazing, honestly, 7 months after my bomb drop I was a soggy weepy pursuing mess You're sort of a natural born DBer! I love how you reach out to help others. I look forward to shaking your hand someday too, although giving you a hug is more my style!

I'm sorry we're gonna be neighbors over in Surviving soon, but have learned it's not a bad place to be. Life is what we make of it huh, and I'm truly grateful to have been given a second chance at it!

SH I think Mach is referring to my friends quote of MWD's post - you know this one.
Originally Posted By: Cadet

Divorce Busting
August 25, 2016
Many people ask how it's possible to create change in a relationship if your spouse isn't motivated to do the same. Here at the Divorce Busting Center, we have a telephone coaching program that is designed specifically to help people whose partners are half-way out the door. In fact, practically everyone who contacts us is dealing with a marriage hanging by a thread.
We help that person to figure out what they need to do or say differently to get a different, more productive response from their partner. Thousands of people have created positive change in their marriages by HANDLING their situations in new and better ways.
So, if your spouse is saying, "I love you, but I'm not in love with you anymore," don't panic. There are many things you can still do to turn your relationship around. Although not all marriages can be saved, many can. Perhaps yours is one of them. Remember, it takes one to tango.
Michele Weiner-Davis

Have you really read it?
And followed ALL of Mach's advice?

I love MWD and am also truly grateful for all the help she gives us, in her Divorce Busting books, these facebook posts, the DB coaches (I had Chuck and he was so helpful to me), and on this forum. It's sort of become a cliche, but although I was not able to save my marriage, divorce busting helped me to save my soul.

Happy birthday month to you and your girls! I'm so sorry that your D18 is having such a hard time with your STBX. Teenaged girls and their moms often have a rocky love-hate relationship anyway, this must be doubly hard for your daughter, having her mom do all that crappy immature stuff - throwing out guilt trips, hanging up, refusing to say she loves D18. Ugh. And then stalking her.... sheesh. Thank God your girls have you Sh, truly their rock and stability during this horrible time in their lives.

Over a month and still no idea what the deal is with the D. I got all the docs to my L 3 and half weeks ago. Have a couple of calls out the week and no word yet.

Where do you live? 3 1/2 weeks after turning in documents unfortunately is not that long in the divorcing world.

I am going to try and go in and conquer some of these demons of mine, or at least throw a bridle on them and take control of where they walk. Still stuck in a limbo state, but not really stuck if that makes any sense.

That makes perfect sense! You are growing and moving forward! Carry on!