She doesn't think she needs therapy. Why? Because there's nothing wrong w/her (in her mind). I wouldn't have any more discussions about her going to therapy. You can't argue w/an irrational person. If you think you need to seek out some therapy, then go...but it's best to let things be w/her about this subject.
Try not to "assume" anything when it comes to her comments/actions. I think she told you quite a bit about what she is doing, which makes me think that guilt was helping her lips to move freely. But, we can't assume that she'll be anywhere but where she said she'll be at this time. Time will tell.
I'm sorry that you'll have the kids while she's out and about, but I'm sure you'll come up w/some entertainment that all of you will enjoy. BTW, do you have a reliable sitter? Maybe get a sitter for a bit if you feel the need to get out and have a breather from taking care of the kids. There's no harm in that...just like mommy, daddy will need some time to himself as well.
Job,
I'm about to go to my 2nd therapy session in about 30 minutes. I think it is coming at a good time after last night. Didn't get much sleep so I got up at 5:30 and went to the gym. It's funny, but the things she is saying to me I could almost predict that she would by reading other people's threads on here. It really is almost like a script. She is the one that has broken down crying countless times in the past month talking about her past and yet now she is suddenly cured and doesn't need the help of a therapist. I won't push it anymore with her.
This whole thing started innocently. I asked her if there was a day she could watch our S2 next week so I could schedule another therapy appointment. She told me next Friday and then I asked her if she had found another therapist because the last we talked about this she said she was looking. That's when she blew up and said she didn't need one anymore and I was the only one who needed one.
Also, she sat there and was texting the original OM and she let me see they were texting about work. She said that's all they text about now and the reason she still texts him is because he is in the same situation at his job as she is at hers. They have the same title and are dealing with the same stuff so they can relate to each other. Of course I don't see how 150 texts a day can be about work but I didn't say anything. I was also good and didn't bring up the suspected new OM.
She told me she is so stressed at work and she can't talk to me about it because I won't understand her job and what she is talking about and that is why she is talking to these OM. I told her to tell me anyway because if it is stressing her out then I want to help, even if all I did was allow her to vent her frustrations.
She also told me she had to go to lunch yesterday with a new client and while they were driving he touched and rubbed her leg. I asked her what that meant and she said she didn't know. I have no idea why she told me that. I don't know if she wanted to make me jealous or upset. Maybe she just wanted me to know that somebody else finds her attractive.
Unfortunately we don't have a babysitter. We both have agreed that if we had a babysitter and better communication we probably wouldn't be in this sitch. We moved here about a year ago and have never really found anyone we were comfortable with.
Finally, the most frustrating thing about this is that I have no control over this M. It's up to her to decide what we do and it's so frustrating. She controls what will happen to our family and its so stressful to have to live like this. I know I have to take care of myself, but its just not right that this insane woman is going to effect what happens to the rest of my life.
M39, W36 T12, M10 S6,S2 Discovered EA 8/8 that started 7/31
