She basically has everything worked out. She wants to end our marriage so we can start over in some way. I've never heard of anything like it before.
Yo can bet your ass she does not everything worked out... I think she's sending you on a guilt trip, implying that your porn use was to blame, yada yada yada...
I say you reread Sandi's rules and power on. Nothing changes if the D finalizes...
And yes, of course she ties to be in control. She "subtly" let you know that it was your issues that killed the marriage, so she was free to pursue her happiness.
Big congratulations on the improvements on yourself, but I have to tell you, that if you made the improvements just because/for your W, you did them for all the wrong reasons.
I gather you are under the 1 yr mark post BD, and the first year is bad, really tough, but it does get better.
Stay strong brother, be the rock in the life of your kids...
