Oh nearly forgot. On the "loser" point. Don't ask him about it. You know what he means and he doesn't like feeling like this.
He needs to feel he is not a loser. He needs to feel happier about himself. Be his cheerleader. Help him to feel better about himself.
Just little things, I like....those jeans they suit you....the way you think like that. Something that won't make him cringe, you will know what will work.
Try it and journal your responses.
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