Quote: Hopefully the C gave her some exercises to work on before their next meeting.
Well, I don't know about exercises, but she did give W a bit of a reading list, and some other suggestions. I haven't seen the book list, but W did say one of the books on it is Divorce Busting. When she said that, I said "Oh, by Michele Weiner-Davis!" W then said "Why, what else did she write?" Hmmmmm.... Let me see... gotta think on this one... (sigh) Guys, you need to understand that W was the one, early last year, who found TSSM and showed it to me! This was while we were still seeing our last MC, and we'd been working on this SSM issue for months already. As soon as W showed me the synopsis online, I ordered the book and read it, and of course it led me here. Much history followed. So I just answered W's question: "She wrote TSSM?" No, it wasn't TOO facetious or eye-rolling...
Anyway, so now there are a bunch MORE books in the house (from the library). Last night W was reading yet another meno-book. Also apparently the C suggested W join a local meno support group. So it seems that the focus so far is still the meno thing, although from what I can see the physical effects are very minor and easily handled, at least the ones W is complaining about. W still has not bought any suppliments or vitamins, although I think now she'll wait, as C also suggested she see a local naturopath. Not sure exactly what will result from that. I think W is hoping there will be some "magic pill", but a NATURAL one, that will "make her feel normal again". Sorry, honey, but I doubt it.
I'm laying low this weekend, and helping out all I can - it's a big time because of all the people coming. MIL/FIL arrive tomorrow, the rest on Sunday. Of course, stress aside, in-laws in the house automatically means "no cooze for youze" anyway. But next week when it's all over, I'm going to say to W that I need to be more than just a bystander here... I need to be part of the process. Even though a lot of the things she needs to do are in the "self-discovery" category, I'm sure there are things I can do to help things progress, and I need to be doing those things, and to an extent, SHE will need to let me know what those things are. "Nothing" is not an acceptable response at this point. I also plan to let her know that I need regular dialog with her on how things ARE going, what the plan is, how to measure progress, etc. Not to pressure her, or check up on her, but to help make sure that we ARE making progress, so course corrections can be made if we're not. But that's next week... for this weekend, there will just be a lot of patience...
