Me and my 2 daughters

[Irish M]

Here is my story

Post 1- Wife goes deep into the tunnel

Post 2 - wife still in the tunnel ...more fog

Post 3 - no clue where wife is can't see past the fog

Post 4 - 2016 a new year... Getting out of my own fog

Post 5 - finding myself and leaving my wife to her MLC

Post 6 - A new day is approaching

[Irish M]

Well like many here have said this...I'll say it too.

Never thought I'd be here this long.

In the beginning I thought my situation was different and she'd snap out of it and come back to me and the girls in a few days,days turned to weeks, then weeks turned to months, the months brought me past the year mark.

It shows you that this is a long process. XW is still very much in the la la land of make believe, magic ponies, candies, balloons and a loser clown we'll call OM.
Lol , I had to throw that in there.

My last thread a New Day was my awakening to continued my life and become more of who I wanted it to be. Live life to the fullest and make it a happy one for me and my girls.

This thread I decided to call it "Me and my daughters" because that's what we are. This family bond has never been stronger.

I just left home for a work trip to Vegas. My girls are with my parents to sleep and will be with my brothers after school as well. So I am very comfortable leaving them alone, they are in great hands. I just landed and I miss them. I will only be 3 days from them and I can't imagine not seeing them for over a year.

On the flight I did think of XW not because we travelled a lot together but because there was a woman sitting in front of me. Looked like her. Not the old her but the new and improved one right ! Lol. Clearly not stable. Had that going to Vegas baby to make it big, I'm a star type look in her eyes.

She was with the dirtiest looking guy, missing teeth, tattoos of a Hang man on one arm and a zombie baby on the other. They clearly had a power trip because they were acting like they owned the plane. No thank you's, curtesy or respect to anyone.

I was thinking thank god I am not with the woman I call XW. It made me happy. Relieved actually. If I was with my XW on their plane and she acted like this twin of hers, I would of pushed her out of the plane. Parachute of course, over water lol.

I am at an amazing place and it is only getting better.

Hugs

Irish

[twinmom]

You are amazing! I don't think I've ever commented on your threads but I read them every day. Your daughters are very lucky and one day you will make a woman very happy.

[Pax_luv]

Irish,
I don't think I've commented on your thread either, but I have followed along. Your post sounds great and I'm pleased to hear that you and your daughters are doing so well. I had to laugh about the pushing her off the plane comment.... So considerate of you to include the parachute

I hope you enjoy Las Vegas and have a little time for play!

[Irish M]

Hi twinmom and Feyth

I thank you both for reaching out. It's nice to see I am doing a good job.
Warms my heart that you both are sending me that positive energy.

I won't lie it's scary sometimes.

Teen girls, their hormones, system changing.
Mood swings. Like any teen going through puberty.

As for a female friend. My girls aren't ready emotionally for that and I'm not completely healed. No Rush. I'm still young and my girls are my priority.
Family to me is what I was raised on.
I thank my parents as often as I can for showing me the right model to follow.

Vegas is a great retreat. Plenty of photo opportunities. My dad instinct kicks in and not a place I'll bring my girls any time soon.

My girls did call me to change plans. That they are old enough to stay at home alone. Laws in canada let a 16yr old stay home over night alone.
I reminded them that since I'm 6 hours away via plane I prefere them staying at my parents. It took some convincing and some rebuttals on their side reminding me to trust them and they are safe. In the end they are at my parents and I will sleep so much better

Irish

[HTM]

Hi Irish M,

Can't imagine how you begin to deal with two teenage girls -two Ss myself w/ S11 showing early signs of puberty so know of that moodiness oh too well- but what I read/pick-up in your post(s) is the love, care & consideration you express openly for your Ds and believe this will always see you, and them, through.

Glad to hear of where you are right now, hope to be there myself one day.

Keep being an inspiration for the rest of us and safe journey home.

[job]

Irish,

Enjoy your time in Vegas. As for that woman on the plane and her "partner"...they sound like a pair made in heaven. Yuck! As you travel the path, you'll notice more and more of the people who are in crisis.

I'm glad your girls are staying w/family so that you can enjoy your trip. You know that they are well taken care of and will be happy upon your return. All of you will have lots to talk about.

Wishing you a safe journey.

[123Gwen]

Enjoy Vegas Irish. Very glad to hear you are in such a centered state of mind. This is no easy task with teenagers to love and care for but very well deserved. Safe travels.

[BrightFuture]

Irish, you are a strong person and a great Dad for your girls! Through this journey, I learnt that the family is very important (I guess I was not brought up with this… exactly…), and at the end of the day, this is you and our D’s who matter the most. I totally get it about the healing and not being ready for any R. I’m kind of slow in the process, and I’ve been there longer that you are. Even though I don’t have that kind of extreme of MLS to deal with (no knows OW 4 years into it, WOW!), I’m not quite ready for an new R.

Anyway… you sound great! Whatever comes our way, I’m sure you are going to be on top of it! Cheers!

[Jack_Three_Beans]

Enjoy Vegas,

Let us know about your exploits if you legally can.

Want some fun?

They have a sky diving place about 30 minutes south of Vegas. I went there when I was going through my wife's MLC overcame my fear of heights.

I figured nothing could feel as bad as being an LBSer so I sort of used that to kill a several fears I had, and I was right. the fear of heights was nothing...and skydiving was amazing.