Thanks for all your replies. They were so interesting!
I guess I do really like this guy and he was the first guy I had met for years who hadn't turned our to be an idiot. I think I was/ am disappointed this happened as I had hope.
It also just really taps into insecurities I'll always have around being 'left'. I thought I was over it but I guess starting to have feelings for someone does leave you vulnerable.
I think it was a freak out but then he kind of regretted it slightly which is why he hasn't dropped contact.
I totally stepped back (practised dber that I am) but I think Surfer that in a lot of ways you are right. He is also finding his feet.
He is on holiday now but after that we are going to meet in the middle of where we live for an afternoon, perhaps a whole weekend is just too intense like you said Maybell.
Meanwhile I am going to date other guys again. I'm not sure if perhaps he does have love avoident traits KML. I spoke to my friend who's husband is his friend and apparently he has had issues in the past (why did she not tell me this??). He has had long relationships though. Hmmmmm...
I guess I was also writing on here because I have found this a bit of a theme with guys in their late 30s who have not been married or have children. It's so annoying and I thought he was different.
