Just working the process, but wondering when......

[cbtdad]

So W went out with girls tonight. She was a little tipsy when she got in
We were laying in the bed watching football game and she was telling me about her night. She was telling me that she was talking to the girls about what her and I were talking about last night. She said that a guy came up and introduced himself and she told him she would talk to him when she was done. He came back again and one of her girlfriends who is older intervened and said she doesn't want to be touched, she's married and not interested. Said it was said kind of rudely to the guy.
So of course I noticed W wasn't wearing ring. I could feel my blood pressure going up about the whole things but did not go there.
I just wish my W would say something like, "no thanks I'm married, in not interested"
I know that's what I do when I've been approached at a bar

Also, I know I could have instigated sex and should would have accepted.
But I'm starting to realize why I'm not instigating. It's not just the working on the new me. I've realized that it's important to me that she instigates and wants me. I want to feel wanted. That's what is holding me back
In he end I told her good night and glad she had fun and went to guest bedroom