Quote: It seems like you are a passenger in your marriage. Not a pilot or even a co-pilot but some guy in the back seat who goes where the vehicle is going.
Hp, I would say that's an accurate description of a LOT of my M, but I think in recent years I've increasingly tried to take the helm. However, she's slow to respond...
Quote: What is stopping you from sitting the W down and saying "You know, I think it is good that we have given them so much but I am ready for them to learn some independence. Starting tomorrow, I am teaching DD20 to drive. Then I will look into a used car for her and her brother to share." Etc.
Good points, already thought of. Some facts:
1. DD20 did Driver's Ed last year, and would have her permanent license already if not for scheduling and school conflicts. Will get permanent license within the next month or two.
2. S18 has begun Driver's Ed, and will have his license by next year (they have graduated licensing here).
3. A second car is definitely on the "must have" list, unfortunately no funding available yet, not to mention insurance costs. Remember I am sole provider, and just marginally making it at the moment. This is a VERY expensive place to live.
Quote: ...Furthermore, they are now responsible for their own laundry and ironing.
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Gawd, I'd love to get to that place. Just this evening when I got home I once again brought this up. W was telling me about her C session, and how I cannot expect instant improvement, because she still has to "keep up" with all the housework, in addition to figuring out herself and us. I pointed out that certain tasks that seem to be weighing her down could be shared, but she's not having any of it. She just dismisses the possibility that anyone could help her in any meaningful way with these things. The only thing she will stipulate is that she will be taking the baskets of clean laundry (that doesn't need ironing) and dumping them on peoples' beds, and they will then be responsible for folding and putting it away.
At this very moment, W and DD20 are having a set-to over DD20's desire to go out drinking. Not sure if it's tonight or tomorrow night. Tonight I think. W is VERY upset right now. Seems like this kind of thing is getting rather frequent, and I will have to talk with W about maybe giving DD20 a bit more slack, and expecting her to get herself there and back. But of course, W will not agree, because when DD20 is out, she can't sleep anyway. Honestly, she just drives herself (and the rest of us) crazy with this sh!t.
So that's a bit more about my life and welcome to it...
