It's high time, IMHO, for those kids to do things for themselves and figure out to to them too. Your wife is doing you and your kids a huge disservice by catering to them as she does. She has to learn to relinguish control and being the "all knowing, all seeing, and all sacrificing" parent. It is very hard for some to do, and I think she has a real issue with letting the kids grow up. Have you talked to her about this aspect of her personality.
