Confused on What to Do

[Eagle11]

Well today I'm wondering if my W is having a texting affair with a 2nd guy. I saw her phone light up last night with a message from a guy asking her to text him and I know I shouldn't have but I snooped into our phone records. What I found was that for about the past week she has been texting this guy almost as much as she has been texting the OM. This new guy works at her office with her and I know they work together on projects, but some of the times of there texts leave me a bit skeptical that this is strictly work related. I discovered they texted on Monday night after 10 pm and last night he sent her a text at 3:00 am.

She has told me in the past that she can't stand this guy and nobody likes him. I have actually heard this same thing from one of her friends that works at the office. My W has also told me that she thinks this guys wants her. In fact, one of my W's employees has told my W not to have any meetings with this guy alone because he doesn't trust him.

Could my W be having these EA's or whatever she is doing just for the attention? Like I said before I discovered these new texts, I have heard a couple people including my W say they can't stand this guy. My W actually drove with the guy a couple of weeks aago when she went out of town for work. When she got home she complained of having to sit in the car with him. Then a week after that she can't stop texting him.

I know I shouldn't be snooping but when I saw his name pop up on that text last night I couldn't help myself. This guy is a jerk that has a wife and 4 kids and now I'm thinking she might be getting involved with him. Maybe I'm overreacting or jumping to conclusions, but with everything else that has been going on its hard not too.

The other thing is that since I confronted her last week about what I know she has been a totally different person around the house. She hasn't shown anger towards me,she has actually acted happy to see me. She has also started acting like herself around the kids. She has been much more attentive towards them, which is the exact opposite as before.