I really do hope that it turns out to be all well-intended, maybe just a misguided effort by them to try to do something positive. You've got enough trouble in your marriage as-is, you don't need this extra dimension -- if it is really something bad -- to be added to your troubles.
Keep your cool, JR, and keep us posted.
Me: 50, MLC/WW 45 Young kids Nov 2015: BD1 Apr 2016: BD2 Jan 2017: W filed Feb 2017: D final