Just to clarify, W is still in the house w/ me at present -I'm sure she thinks of it as an IHS, of course I see it very differently especially as were still sharing the same bed- so her visiting and taking things is yet to come. However, I expect household items she wants will be listed/discussed at the Mediators appointment later this month.
Still, think I get the gist of what you're saying, my MLCer W won't necessarily chose items to invoke a reaction from me but is more about what has significance to her or catches her eye at the time.
Incidentally while on the topic of splitting household items, W wants the small bedroom TV bought by MIL for both of us some Christmases ago, which has now turned into a gift bought solely for W; further evidence of how memories are re-written in the MLCer's mind!
Me 50, ExW 49 T21, M13+ S15, S13 BD #1: 25-Jan-2016 (EA confirmed & ILYBINILWY) Sept-2016 Mediated Sep. starts Oct-2016 W petitions for D Jan-2017 R w OM admitted/confirmed Jun-2018 D'd