I tend to agree w/your friend. Right now, the divorce is like the brass ring that you reach for when on the merrygoround. He thinks a divorce will make him happy...but after about 6 months of euphoria once the ink is dry, he may very well begin to look for something else to make him happy. The divorce decree is nothing more than a piece of paper and nothing is going to change in the real world. La La Land keeps calling him and until he has that divorce decree in hand, he's going to keep talking about it.
The children are like the last thread on a sweater and it continues to unravel as he continues to pull on it. He's using them as a connection to his old life and as a way to keep a finger on the pulse of your life.
He's in for a very rude awakening as time rolls on.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
