Hey Mia! I believe what your friend said is spot on. All of it. My H has even told me he's "not going to do a happy dance when the D is final". My kids have made it very clear that I should move forward with my life, though they are very upset by this. I had to push my oldest early on to even speak to her father, as she was so upset with him for dropping the bomb right after her wedding (way to mess up a brand new marriage with major stress). They are working through it, though. I know this whole thing s#cks, but I think making sure your kids maintain a relationship with their father is something worth pushing, even if he isn't all that great at connecting. We need to be the teacher, the strong parent. Encourage them to understand and be there for him even as you go dark. You will not regret it. Be the lighthouse.
M-51 H-54 2D-27 and 25 M-26 yrs Bombshell and IHS 7-29-15 He moved out 10-3-15 D filed 1-27-16 D final 10-27-16
