Dude, You ABSOLUTELY need to go to the bookstore and read chapter 11 of Passionate Marriage. It gives an interesting insight into people like our Ws and Corri when it comes to "pressure" and it explained everything I'm experiencing right now (like the bad sex). It's completely based around a case study and not at all preachy. This guy is pretty damn smart and makes people like Dr. Laura and *others* look like amateurs. I wish I would have bought it today but I was so overwhelmed and dizzy after reading it that I figured a break would be smarter. Plus, my W hates "the books".
Anyway, it's the first time I've read something that makes me want to let my W off the hook for a while and see how long before she initiates. I have a much better understanding of why it might take a couple weeks or more.
What I did learn is that I need a pretty damn sharp therapist to get results. That one chapter made me realize how much of a "hack" I am at this stuff and how deep the issues in our LDWs really can be. Just listen to Corri...she's got a brilliant understanding of herself, is very introspective and motivated yet she still seems to have strings attached to her like a marionette with an LD monster controlling her against her will.
What was also promising about this case-study was that the woman seemed to be an incurable LD like CeMar (and that b!tch Dr. Laura) always describe. Why would any woman willingly destroy her own marriage if they didn't have some other issues. I wish I had bought it.
Anywhere is walking distance if you have the time
-Steven Wright
