Quote: I'm sorry, I'm talking about me again on your thread.
I don't mind, Dave. Lord (and everyone here) knows I've talked about myself on your thread a time or two...
Quote: She says that my W keeps handing it back to me and I keep taking it. This was truly insightful...
Wow, Dave, that took my breath away! I think your C is absolutely right... and that dynamic is at work in MY R as well, I'm sure...
You're right that it would be a HUGE mistake to take your W to that C at this point. It would be you and C ganging up on W, and I can't see W being at all cooperative under those circumstances. I also think your seeing this C under "false pretenses" pretty much stinks, but I think you see that now also. Nuff said. What you MIGHT do at this point is break off after a couple of sessions, since YOU don't really need therapy (do you?), and later, if W decides she might want to see someone, you can recommend this one to her. At that point, I don't think C could share anything with your W that YOU didn't want shared, since that would break confidentiality, which is a responsibility she'd now have to BOTH of you. Just a thought...
Last night as W and I were going to bed, we had something like the following conversation:
me: I've been thinking about what you asked earlier about having me help you figure out how to start with the C. Can you tell me what YOU think you'd like to talk about with her?
W: I don't know... my stress, I guess... that seems to be the biggest thing these days...
me: I was just thinking that this is your chance to talk about what YOU want to... this is YOUR C, and I will commit that I won't ask you about it... if you want to tell me anything that's fine.
(we say goodnight)
me: 'Cause you had said before that with our last C, you didn't feel like she was sympathetic to you, and didn't really HEAR your side of things...
Can't really remember too much, but the gist of it from W's POV (that came across to me, anyway) was that she doesn't really KNOW why she's going there... which means it probably won't bear fruit. I'm already working on Plan B...
I'm in training today, so I won't be able to post again until tonight...
