I'm having this issue right now regarding the C. I just saw this C she wanted me to bring in W. I'm seeing her under the guise that it's for me only and not really about the R...afterall, my w likes to pretend there is no problem (this is a HUGE mistake I'm making so ignore those posts I made on this topic). It's not a coincidence that my counselor is also a leading Dr. on eating disorders, self-destructive behaviors and women's issues. There are some deep issues in my W in this area that I'm not fully aware of and she aint talkin'. I want this C for her but not until I get a better read on her "marriage orientation". I would hate to have her tell my W to leave me (but...it some ways, that would be progress because I would regain my respect for my W instead of watching her cower in insecurity and inactivity). Sorry, I digressed.
NOW, there's a big problem here. The C is "mine" and I've had a session...we have a history. Bringing my W into her would be a terrible mistake because it wouldn't matter if this was the greatest mind in psychology...my W will not want to hear anything. While my W agreed to go with me next Monday, I told her today that she is off the hook.
The C says for me to not "take sole ownership of the relationship repair". She says that my W keeps handing it back to me and I keep taking it. This was truly insightful because it's absolutely true and I do this with everyone. A lot of us here seem to do it. It's in our "fixit" nature.
I'm sorry, I'm talking about me again on your thread.
Anywhere is walking distance if you have the time
-Steven Wright
