MLC, WAW or WW?? Who really knows? Help...pls

[RosaLinda]

Take a deep breath my friend. You don't have to set or enforce any boundaries right now Roe. We were just discussing boundaries because Sandi asked if you had any, and we were using your sitch as an example.

I really believe she is painting me into a corner. We closed today on a big sale and oddly enough the level of disrespect has kicked up a notch. Supposedly W will be moving out very soon then D papers will be served to me. This really just has to end somehow. I think I'm in a hopeless situation.

Maybe she IS trying to paint you into a corner, and figures if she is nasty enough, she will goad YOU into filing. That will make YOU the bad guy, not her. This may be a bit of mind reading on your part here though. Hasn't she been saying she is going to file since May?

What is the worst that can happen? She moves in with OM and serves you with papers. Okay. Will that be any worse than her living in the house with you and making your life hell? Maybe you will be able to detach a little better, and maybe she and OM will get sick of each other. In the mean while you can keep transforming yourself into the best dad and the best man you can be Roe.

If you really believe D is imminent though, it's time for you to go talk to a lawyer and find out what your rights are for child custody, the house, child support, spousal support, etc. Just to be forearmed with the knowledge, and find out what the laws are in your state.