Taking that further, is it even realistic to hold these high standards that relationships should last a lifetime for them to be 'great relationships'? What if the best relationship is one where you are very happy and experience and learn a lot about each other, and then it ends for some reason after a period of time. Maybe we should just accept these relationships for what they are and be happy that they even happened at all.
I think we do both.
I play competitive pool. When I play, I play like it's life and death. After I put away my cue I remember it's just a game designed for me to have fun, and the outcome really isn't that big of a deal. The first half helps me fight when I'm in the ring. The second half allows me to enjoy the journey regardless of the outcome.
Same way with marriage. Once it's over we have to grieve what was lost, say a quiet thanks for what we had, and continue to cherish what we still have in our lives. But as long as we're in the marriage we have to do everything we can to make it work. In other words, just because we have to accept the loss when it comes, doesn't mean we shouldn't care that it was lost or not fight for what we believe in.
Me:38 XW:38 T:11 years M:8 years Kids: S14, D11, D7 BD/Move out day: 6/17/14, D final Dec 15
