MLC, WAW or WW?? Who really knows? Help...pls

[RosaLinda]

Surfer/Rose/Others -- Help me see this in a more concrete way.

ROE's WW spending time w/ OM while with their kids is causing a lot of confusion and distress to the kids. So let's say ROE wants to draw a boundary there. What would that boundary be? "I don't want you to spend time w/ OM while with our kids." Well, how is that enforced?

Not being argumentative. Would like to understand how this works in pratice.

Well Roe's chosen consequence would have to be enforceable, and something he is willing to do if she does not back down. "I don't want you to spend time w/ OM while with our kids" is telling Roe's wife what he wants, but is not really stating a boundary because there is no consequence.

The most radical would be something like "I don't want you to spend time w/ OM while with our kids and the next time you do, I will pack your bags and put them on the front lawn." Roe would have to be willing to stick with that if he said it though, or his wife would lose even more respect for him.

Also rather radical: "I don't want you to spend time w/ OM while with our kids and the next time you do, I will file for divorce."

How about this: "I don't want you to spend time w/ OM while with our kids and the next time you do, I will go and tell OM's wife that you two are having an affair." Or maybe tell Roe's neighbors; I think Roe said OM is not married.