"Now given that fact, is it an acceptable risk to enter into a marriage relationship - now that we know that people can lie, behave unpredictably, can be vindictive, or just flat out change over time? No amount of communication or empathy can prevent bad things from happening sometimes. Which is fine. But, given that children are involved, and your net worth and properties - that's a hell of a risk to take."
That's just called 'LIFE'. The same thing can be said about a career, your health, etc. There are no guarantees in life. Does that make you stop living? Of course not. Is everything always going to be perfect? Of course not. If you walked outside and got mugged. Would you stop going outside? Hopefully not. But you take that chance. You start a new job that you rely on for health insurance and income to live. Will you have it forever? Maybe, maybe not. Does that make you stop working? You buy a home to live in with everything you own. What if it catches fire? Does that mean you stop looking for places to live?
Everything has risk. You have a choice. You can either avoid risk by hiding or avoiding, or you can face it head on and just live and adapt to the changes that come.
The way you're questioning things is normal. Many of us have gone through that. But it's up to each individual to determine how to adapt to the situation they're in based on what they can control themselves.
One of the best things I ever did was to work in the children's cancer ward at the hospital. These kids are fighting for their lives, but they had a great attitude and didn't stop fighting. Some of them had inoperable cancers. Did that stop them from hoping? No. You'll get to that point.
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Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
