One thing they teach on this board is 'you can't control the actions of others'.

Now given that fact, is it an acceptable risk to enter into a marriage relationship - now that we know that people can lie, behave unpredictably, can be vindictive, or just flat out change over time? No amount of communication or empathy can prevent bad things from happening sometimes. Which is fine. But, given that children are involved, and your net worth and properties - that's a hell of a risk to take.

I'm still for marriage, but I realize now that you have to be a more hopeful and naive person to take that risk. As a young person, you never think it would happen to you and that your relationship is special.

Me-45, W-37, T-10 yrs, M-9 yrs
D -7 yrs, S-5 yrs
BD-5/3/16, D filed 6/8/16