I'm glad to hear he's doing both types of therapy. That's heck of a lot more than what many of us here have.
He knows he's being a jerk. Which is why he's tormented at times. I think it's a long road for him to grapple with what he wants, what kind of a man he wants to become....
Me: 50, MLC/WW 45 Young kids Nov 2015: BD1 Apr 2016: BD2 Jan 2017: W filed Feb 2017: D final