Trying to detach - part deux

[Surfer]

Coly,

Reflecting on what Rose said. The bigger picture. 'Does he love me'. I would say in almost all sitch's the answer is yes. I expect that even the mos wayward still feels this deep down. But the resentment and spew, history re-writing becomes their path. It clouds how they would normally think. In the same way pursuit and fear clues the LBS.

You both have your own fog. Until you get that for you, you can't exit yours. You do that by detaching from the WS whilst still loving the S. To help you fill your time with GAL - it stops you overthinking and gives you fun! Win win. Time to get back to that.

Let the WH go. Find you again and learn to smile. Men always find a happy lady attractive. Women are the same. I have never know anyone say, yes I really look for a spouse that is miserable. Same way that you never hear someone say yes i crave a man that is mean and tight fisted. So, GAL, detach from WH and stop moping about. It takes time, we have all been there. It's like trying to climb out of quicksand, slow movements in the right direction and you will succeed- but take it slowly. Go on to fast and it won't work.

Be easy on yourself. Keep going and recognise, hour by hour, day by day, month by month the progress you are making. It may seem like there is no progress at times, but trust me, you are moving faster than you know. You just can't see it yet.

Keep it up!

Surfer.