Cherry. H is filing and leaving. Working on me

[Surfer]

Cherry,

Exactly. Acknowledge your feelings. But don't get sucked in. It's like acknowledging a raging river, you can't feel it's power, but you would be a fool to walk into it. It will be bad for you. If you can do that, you win. It's easy to say of course. But it is a good way to think of how to deal with the it.

It's the same as dealing with spew. You hear it. You see it. You can feel it. But you just don't engage with it. Set your boundaries to protect you.

Yes I get if you let him go there is no going back. But you are differentiating between your H and your WH. Fully detach from WH. There is NO going back. Spot on. However if your H reappears then yes. You keep the lighthouse burning for him. The way you are. And you are - by being YOU. Not the weak you, the strong one he admires. He has a choice then and it's all his circus. He can be the teenager in chaos - the WH or he can see the error of his ways and come back, but via the lighthouse. But ONLY on proper terms. You get to set these, acting reasonably.

Simples.

Surfer.