Oh yes Steve it is SO hard. I agree. It really takes a conscious effort on my part to keep my heart open to H and our marriage. I have even gotten to the point now where I am trying to anticipate his reactions and how I will react to them. (For example, if I go to kiss him on the cheek and he pulls away - which he usually does - instead of feeling rejected and saying something snotty I will just take a deep breath and tell him I love him.)
(Sigh.)
You know the worst thing about being HD and ML with your LD spouse? It makes you miss ML even more, but you feel like you can't reach out to them again for [insert set amount of time here] or they will accuse you of being a sex maniac.