I do understand what you are saying about other people. They want to see us move on, get over it and start to live again. Why? Because they don't want to see us hurting and yes, they get sick and tired of us talking about the situation. Of course, if the shoe was on the other foot, they would be doing the same thing.
People do not understand that when a divorce takes place, it is the death of a relationship, i.e, the relationship has died. They only think of death as taking place when a person crosses over. But you have to go through the same process in both cases, i.e., grieve for what has been lost. It takes time and yes, there will be good days as well as bad days.
If you need to talk to some, maybe it's time to think about an IC or a divorce group. Both are good sources in the real world to voice your concerns, vent and hopefully help you through the grieving process. Of course, you know you can come here and do the same, but sometimes, it helps to talk to a person face to face.
The phase you are in right now is very typical...but don't make it your permanent stop over. Eventually you will need to come out of hiding w/the work and start living again...but that will be in due time.
qt, it's okay to grieve. It's okay to show your emotions and don't allow others to tempt you into pushing through the process. It's one day at a time.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
