As a stander I am telling my wife and my kids: 1. I am not accepting this, this is not what we agreed upon. 2. I am not going to allow the kids to become mentally ill from all of this. 3. She did it all by herself, and the consequences are going to be 100% her fault. 4. I will always be there for her and for the kids in good and bad health because I am not going to break my vows.
