Newby here, desperate for some advice (thread 4)

[JRuss]

I think you're right about the human condition, at least as it applies to marriage. There are those who wake up everyday and choose to love their partner (by overlooking any number of "flaws" that prove to be dealbreakers for the less loyal) and those who look at and focus on what their partner isn't. If you have two of the former, you get the sort of marriage that others wish they had; if you get even one of the latter, it's just a matter of how, not if, it ends.