Jen, just look at the title of this forum. SSM stands for Sex-Starved Marriage, and it's by Michele Weiner-Davis, the same one who's picture is plastered all over this place. It's a GREAT book - get it ASAP and read it immediately. LOTS of good advice. Read it several times... that's a must! Get H to read it too.
HH - thanks for the reminder! I'll sit down this afternoon and write a love-note to leave for W to find tomorrow... Thanks!