I love you, but I'm not in love with you.

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Doodler, that's so true. Same with my situation, always behind the phone on FB or texting non stop. Enough to drive you mad.

Duvae, I'm also sorry that circumstances find you here. Doodler is spot on that you couldn't have found a better spot w/ more supportive people. I'm sure some vets will be in here to help out. I'm still early in my situation, but can offer some advice that may help.

First, know that your situation is not unique. There seems to be a common thread amongst most folks situations and our Ws tend to follow a similar pattern. Also, there's some solace in knowing that you are not alone on an island and that others are suffering w/ you, as odd as that sounds.

Second, the more details you can share of your history w/ your W the better folks will be able to help. Stuff like your ages, how long you've been married, etc.

Third, there will be large emotional swings for you as you grind through this thing. To help control that, make sure you put a large amount of focus into yourself and bettering who you are. It's easy to lose focus on yourself when you are laser focused on fixing your MR. That's when you tend to hit the peaks of the emotional swings and that's no fun.

Hang in there bud and know that we're all here to lend a hand where we can.