Looking above, it's been almost a year since I last posted on my sitch.
Just to update you - I think I am getting on OK these days.
In retrospect, I think I have probably been pretty depressed at times over the last year.
I had a 6-month sabbatical from work and due to the lack of structure in my day, soon ended up not very motivated to get out of the house.
Once you give in to feelings like those, the spiral into inactivity and isolation can occur pretty quickly. However, I just stuck out the down times and eventually the feelings passed. I am now back on top of things again and interested in life once more.
Money is still tight, as XH continues to refuse to contribute anything by way of child support for either of the kids - who are both students, although now nearly 21 and 18 years of age.
His Child Support arrears now stand at around $33,000. Perhaps one day a miracle will occur and they will get what they are entitled to.
As far as he goes - there has been no contact for a long time. I heard that he had indeed moved to Cambodia to live for a while. So bizarre....
I also heard that he and OW had split up (presumably she didn't want to join him in Phnom Penh!).
Apparently, he is now returned, and living with his mother (he is 46 years old).
He has started another 3 new businesses, each in a different field, and each more fantastical-sounding than the next.
I also get almost monthly calls from a car finance company informing me that our car (that he insisted on taking with him when he left) is going to be repossessed, as he hasn't paid the lease fee. It's a luxury sedan that he needs to keep up appearances. He's paid more for that lease over the last five years than the arrears on the Child Support. But oh, he cares about his children - just ask him!
It's just weird how full-blown mlc seems to strike them.
I am focusing on my kids - giving them as much help to live happy, interesting, fulfilled lives as I can.
I worry, now and then, about how I'l cope when they move out of home and it's just me and the dogs. I'm not really a very social person outside of family.
But I know that I'll manage with the passage of time. That much I'm sure of these days.
Things can be hard - or even seem impossible to deal with. But with time, you mange to cope somehow or another. You might even thrive - if you can just hang on.
So don't worry about feeling like a snail - it happens to us all. Things will change, and you will get there in the end.
