QT, I know it feels as if you lost so much and the changes in your life could be so overwhelming and you don't know how to redefine your identity.
You are still you. You are still a dad, you still have a career. Money will change, housing will change, but it is all adaptable. And I am sure you will adapt and will enjoy life again. Living one day at a time, going step by step and not living too far into the future really helped me.
Life is good for me, I, as a single mom, is trying to buy my own place in stead of renting, finally, I have a good full time job, I am furthering my degree, and raising my daughter. I've got a great circle of friends. I've reconnected with some lost ones and picked up new ones along the way. I've done this alone, and in no major or long term relationships along the way.
It'll come together. You just got to give it time.
Believe it or not, but women like masculine men and that's exactly the way I am acting. My wife will come back because of that. She might not like it sometimes but at the end of the day she would much rather have a man like me than a mangina. You will see.
I am a woman. I have lots of female friends and relatives. None of us are attracted to the attitude you are displaying in this thread.
Me: 44 H: 44 Kids: 20, 16, 16, and 10 Together/Married: 22 years H announced he was emotionally detached and considering D: 4/4/16 H announced he is going to try to stay and reconnect: 5/1/16
I mean, it's a process to get to ... what. A point where I'm not going out of my mind with sadness. Ok. God the pain is so great.
I guess this is point where I allow myself to feel the grief. Today is literally the day where two kids lives are changed forever.
QT, words seem so inadequate in the face of your pain.
Feel the grief today, but trust those who have been down this road before and who tell you that there is goodness waiting for you. Something much more than the absence of pain.
You are still your kids' father, and they need you! Your attitude can greatly affect how well they come through this.
You've got this.
Me: 44 H: 44 Kids: 20, 16, 16, and 10 Together/Married: 22 years H announced he was emotionally detached and considering D: 4/4/16 H announced he is going to try to stay and reconnect: 5/1/16
