I kinda feel like my wife has been "gas lighting" me. I've been nice and cordial to her..but occasionally I will miss step. She uses that opportunity to say "I was thinking about our relationship but now I know it's over" and whenever the affair comes up she rewrites history to make me a bad husband. It takes a mental toll.
I finally decided to stand up for myself. I told her I'm a good husband. I think you are depressed and blaming a lot of your problems on me. I told her I'm gonna start making my own decisions. I'm gonna do what I want from here out. She looked flabbergasted. She came back with that I have manic depression. I said no, I've been dumped, cheated on and lied too. I have a right to be angry and paranoid. I also told her contact will be limited to family finances and our child. No more group outings for the cake eater.
Out of the blue, she asked have you told your parents about this. I said no, I want to tell them face to face as they live out of state. She says, well I want to be there for I can tell my side. I check my email the next day and she emails my mom and cc's me. She just wanted to let them know we have been having marriage problems for a while. Geez..
I come to the concussion if I fight this to the end we will loss everything. I'm confident I could rebuild my life. I also know she may fight dirty. That's a bit scary. We never had a perfect marriage but it functioned. It's like a light switch flipped two months ago.
