I haven't been here for a while but... I'm confused about a guys actions and I was hoping for some advice.
I met a guy about 8 weeks ago. He's a friend of a friend. He was really into me. I was distant the weekend we met but after that he phoned me and messaged me regularly. We live some distance apart and arranged after a month that I would go and stay.
So I did and we had a great weekend until the last day where he was all moody (very like someone who has dropped the bomb). We talked and I said basically I wasn't interested in being with someone who is not interested in being with me and he changed his tune.
After that he was very full on texting and calling etc. Then last weekend he came to stay here. I was moving that weekend and my brother was helping me. He knew this was happening but for some reason this seemed to freak him out again. At the end of the weekend he said I was perfect for him and he didn't know why he was behaving this way. I basically told him to go.
So now he's back messaging me. I've held right back but I don't know what to do next. He says he's thinking about things and trying to sort his behaviour out - he's nearly 40 now.
Can I add,it's the first guy I have properly liked for years. He's sweet and kind and so lovely but there is this thing. I've encountered it before and I'm not sure what to do.
Do I just go dark on him. Take time to recover myself? Why is he still messaging me?
