Detachment and the end of limbo, sort of...too

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Phoebe,

Oh how your update last night breaks my heart.

I wish I could stay up and just talk with you.

But it is late and I have had this thought since you first mentioned the (more than) friendship with the L friend.
Your update and permission to share my thoughts as I sit at your table inspire me to share now.



Would you step away form the L friend for a set period of time, say a month, to give space for both of you?
This will test the boundaries and intentions of the relationship. It will provide a clear indication to you and him of what your needs and wants are.

Awesome. Really. His sleep was more important than my safety. that is going to be very hard to forget and forgive.

This indicates that the lines you may be convincing yourself and us that are in place may not be as clear as you would hope.
Your emotions and logic are in direct conflict with this.

Again, the advice to avoid relationships such as these so early as the emotional baggage should be better called emotional bombs.
Painter is correct in that he may be conflicted watching you struggle with the emotions of your H and sitch.
You know he has his own baggage.
This does not create a healthy mix for things.

Anyway,, I will leave it at that so as not to say something stupid or insensitive.....

But please consider stepping away for a bit.
You will know soon enough if you have withdrawal symptoms, as it still appears you need comfort and may be seeking in a place that is not healthy now.
And you will be able to separate the logic and emotion by taking the leave of absence.
One does not want to get off on the wrong foot in a new relationship, because messy is the last thing you need for a while.

I do hope you sleep well again and that you can have upbeat day tomorrow with fun and sound social connections.

BIG HUGS to my super awesome chicken lady with pencil smiles and some chocolate and F* This meditations.

((((((((((Phoebe))))))))))