I think most people in here would say that 2 months is really not very long for a confused spouse to be ... confused. Look at people's signatures -- lots of them have bomb drops that happened many months ago, with no clear resolution as of today. Your own situation and your own needs are different, but it may help to see that other people deal with problems for much longer than 2 months.
My advice is, when you talk to him, frame the problem only in terms of him figuring out his thoughts and feelings. Don't frame the problem as, "we need to fix our marriage." Tell him he needs to do whatever it takes to get to a healthier place. I like using the word "healthy" because healthy doesn't mean simply happy and joyful. He needs to figure out what he wants to do as a husband, as a father, and as a man.
It sounds to me like he's got some serious, deep-seated issues. It's not about just your marriage. It's going to take some time for him to figure it out.
Me: 50, MLC/WW 45 Young kids Nov 2015: BD1 Apr 2016: BD2 Jan 2017: W filed Feb 2017: D final
