My 2 girls are in a similar sitch with grandparents. For a long time the sadness consumed me but I have come to realize that the best gift I can give my girls is to be their mom 24/7 and not give the haters or the indifferent ANY energy. No negative, no positive - not worth it. NOTHING - NADA - ZILCH.
Very unfamiliar territory for me but my absolute refusal to engage my emotions or my time has been empowering without treading towards bitterness. As for the very personal grieving process I am still grappling with it and going to counseling. My heart is so sad even though my brain is much more evolved. I struggle with the tragedy of it but I find myself really wanting to move beyond that definition of my family.
Let us know what you decide on the car. I went practical and no regrets.
M:25 years at BD w/ 2 daughters BD: 5/14 Separated 6/14 - H moved cross country w/OW D Final 9/17
“I can be changed by what happens to me. But I refuse to be reduced by it.” ― Maya Angelou
