What about hiring a high school kid to babysit for 45min or so to do exchanges. That way you get some calm time, don't have to see H and can focus on you.
Me: 35 husband:39 Sons 16 and 11 from my first marriage Twins 5 (boy/girl) Daughter 3 Affair bomb 2/27/14 He moved in with ow 3/13/14 OW kicked him out 6/15/14 4/2016 he seeks help for sexual addiction