It's a bit sad when people don't want to get practical advice, but hey-ho, I do, so thanks for looking in.
Can only stick a dog's nose in poo-poo so many times before it bites you.
I can't believe I have to say poo-poo instead of [censored]. Sometimes profanity has a point. (digress)
Huddy I think you are doing well, I think that you have a lot of positives going for you. That being said, everyone here is in there own personal minefield. While I think you are in a good position, you still have to navigate your way through it.
Do what works, but don't be afraid to try new things if you are tired of the status quo or want to see change...I guarantee that if you try new things you will see change...however the good changes will be slow to notice, and the bad changes will be fast like a razor blade tornado.
Trying new tactics will mean that you possibly takes several steps back along your path if the generated change was a bad one, and maybe a half a step forward if it was a good one.
Too vague?
Sorry. I have no for examples exactly, except a bad one, and for anyone reading this...don't do this.
An R talk is frowned upon here. But if enough time has gone by and you're careful, who knows? I say that with a large ammount of warning. I say that only if you guys are getting along better and you're willing to risk some of your progress. IF the clues in your spouse and how you are getting along indicate that you, with logic driving and not emotion can try it.
Like I said a bad example of trying something risky.
Examples less risky?
A simple goodnight text.
Something different, usually something nice.
Though something different can also be a boundary. But use those sparingly, especially if you have been accused of being controlling.
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK
