On another note, I've recently taken notice to a girl at work... yes I know workplace relationships are bad, and I'm not free to date right now but it's nice getting some attention. It hasn't gone any further then water-cooler type conversation when I bump in to her getting coffee but we both have that sort of "shy/awkward" smile that I believe there's some attraction there. I'm still wearing my wedding ring but attention is nice and does make me wonder what if....
This is good. Makes you feel like a million bucks. Don't be afraid of it. Your wife has put you through a lot for quite a while now. This is for you and I know you like it. It would certainly make your wife figure out really quick if she wants this M or not if she thinks she might lose you. Nothing does that quicker than you getting the attention of someone else. All the therapy and psycho-babble in the world doesn't hold a candle to a person seeing that someone else is interested in their spouse. That snaps people out of the fog quicker and more effectively than anything else. Detachment and moving on are a close second but nothing like a member of the opposite sex sniffing around. Leave the ring at home. My wife strung me along for two years until I started leaving the ring at home and casually seeing people of the opposite sex. That snapped her out of her MLC in a nanosecond. Don't underestimate its power.
