Quote: That is just so strange (must have been to you, too) that she was so sexual with you before marriage, but turned it off once you'd made the relationship official
HH, it was a LONG time ago (we've been married 25 years in June!), and as long as we were SOMETIMES ML, it didn't seem to matter all that much, although I DID miss it (I DO miss it!!!). This was even way before we had kids. She just decided, like right after we were married, that there was "no need" for certain things. Necking on the couch was one of those things. GOD how I miss it. Then, about 6 years ago, she decided that cunnilingus was to be added to that list (things we no longer need). Well, I can tell you, (this may surprise you) I was very vocal about the fact that I need it, obviously much more than she does, but it did me no good.
Quote: I'm so sorry you are going through all this, Tim. But I'll bet you do look like a new man with the beard shaved and all. Maybe tonight you could give her a wink and say, "Honey, how 'bout a bath?"
I'm sorry we're ALL going through this. It sure isn't any fun. Early poll results suggest the beard should make a speedy return. Nobody seems to like the "new me". Oh, well, it was an interesting experiment.
As for tonight, nothing's going to happen. The blasted painting project made a wreck of today. She and I were both working at it all day. I got in a second coat on part of it this morning about 9:00, then off to work for 9:40, got home around noon, and straight back to painting. Quick lunch break around 1:30, then painting straight through until supper (7:00), then painting again from 7:30 till almost 8:30. Got the edging done and first coat on the entry, LR/DR and upstairs hallway. We can now see the full effect for the first time, and it looks good! But both of us are tired, and SHE, for sure, will NOT be in the mood. But I do plan to initiate at least a BIT of discussion tonight. I need PROGRESS, dammit!! I won't put it quite that way, tho...
No, I won't be giving her "the letter" tonight, it wouldn't be fair. We've worked too long and hard today, we're both too tired, and tempers would flare too easily. DD20 had a hissy fit earlier, as she was getting ready to go out, and had no underwear... (give us a freakin' break, daughter dear, we've been effin' PAINTING ALL WEEK!!!)... so not tonight. Maybe tomorrow, tho, if things go better. No edging tomorrow, just rolling. The edging is what took most of the day... Do I sound like I'm insane yet???
