Progress is slow but does happen!

[PacLove]

So how far have you all "detached" from your S?

I admit that after 5 months I'm still struggling and think of her often... I've been doing fine with my GAL, and avoiding contact unless necessary but still I miss her.

A few things to ponder....

I still have the family photos up at home, W still frequents the house so doing anything with them would certainly be noticed... she's still got a family picture on her desk at home too although she barely sits there anymore.

I still have pictures of her/family up at my desk at work... I took them down early on and then put them back up. It's a reminder I'm still married but sometimes it hurts to look at them.

I still find myself noticing her activity on FB and other social activities.

I still do things every now and then for her but only if asked and only when it is convenient for me.

In many ways she's still pretending to the outside world we are still a couple, or at least not openly declaring that we are separated. (she skirts the question or deflects whenever asked to do something). I on the other hand have become more open to the outside that we are separated.

I've separated finances and am trying to maintain boundaries around parenting and access to the house etc - but I can definitely be a lot more firm here.

On another note, I've recently taken notice to a girl at work... yes I know workplace relationships are bad, and I'm not free to date right now but it's nice getting some attention. It hasn't gone any further then water-cooler type conversation when I bump in to her getting coffee but we both have that sort of "shy/awkward" smile that I believe there's some attraction there. I'm still wearing my wedding ring but attention is nice and does make me wonder what if....