Trying to detach - part deux

[Cherry]

Haha! Yes it certainly was, can you tell I've had a long day at work and was trying to entertain my toddler. It should have said words of GOLD.

I think the sign you notice things working more would be there is left thought/actions on your side, and he would be striving to make more of an effort.
Mine would be if my wh contacted me at all or just had a friendly non r/d/defend his "friendship" with ow. He is incapable of anything other than that right now. And I will go absolute days without seeing or hearing from him at all.

I think we all come here in the hope we can restore our m's, and we all have s varied mix of WS'. There is some positives in your h, he is still civil with you and treating you like a human. And he also sprung a kiss on you, I think he is somewhat on the fence in my eyes; there is definitely some positives, and he doesn't seem to have gone crazy wayward. The doing things for us helps us along our journey of bring more independent and finding ourselves. I really wanted to hide away on Saturday, but I pushed myself to have s girly day with a girlfriend. We hit the shops, and I got my eyebrows waxed, just little things like this keeps us going. Even if for a while you force yourself, and even if you shed a tear. I actually woke up hearing someone crying the other day, I wondered who the heck it was and then I realised my cheek was wet and that it was me,

I know the feeling of wanting to run, we've probably all had it. But like you say, it makes us no better than them, and those problems and feelings, well they will just tag along with us wherever the heck we go.

Does journaling your thoughts help you? When I'm feeling particularly alone, like the evenings when these triggers come along and the sad feeling slips in, or he hasn't come home. I come on here and journal my thoughts, I catch up on others, and I read great posts like painters. Sometimes someone might write something to someone, but it speaks volumes and really helps.

How are you getting on with your goals?

Have you read psysaras posts? When I came back here, her situation seemed so much like mine. And she is a strong chick! She's pulling through